New year resolutions

My New Year Resolution last year was – “Not to wait till the next New Year to make any new resolutions”.  If you want to know my actual adherence to this resolution, I did make a few resolutions during the year, of which the success ratio was satisfactory, though not excellent.

But what I really want to write about is the concept of ‘Resolutions’.  In quite many cases, people use Resolutions more to flaunt them before friends, ‘try’ sticking to them for some months, weeks or days, and then get back to their old ways. I have a few friends who are so ‘determined’ to quit smoking that every year it forms a part of their Resolution. Then a few detox weeks later, they are back with their ‘sutta-breaks’.

Through this post, I do not intend to criticize the people who are not able to uphold their Resolutions, because this more or less happens with all of us. We do fall to the trap of Temptations (viz. unofficial antonym of Resolution). What I want to highlight here is that a Resolution should be a conscious and strong decision towards being a better individual. And such decisions can be taken at any time during the year, not necessarily waiting till the New Year or Birthday.

In this context, I remember an example which was given in an HR training in my previous company. It said – “To strengthen your mind, try starting with simple decisions like getting up early. On the first day, there will be two arguing voices in your mind; One saying – Get up, follow your decision. And other saying – it is more comfortable to sleep, so don’t get up. Every time you listen to the former voice, your determination will keep on becoming stronger. Once your mind is trained to curb these smaller temptations, the bigger ones will fall through.”

So, a resolution can be made not only be at the New Year but also during the New Year…


I don’t know whether this is an official dictionary term, but the class of people it denotes is certainly a sizable percentage of the population we live among. Visualize a group of people standing in a lunch queue at their workplace. People coming later join the queue; and everyone gets the food in the order of the queue. Just and fair – no chaos – no grumblings.

But suddenly comes a super being who does not believe in lowly concepts like First-come-first-serve, queues, etc. This person acting under the supreme authority conferred upon him by himself, just gets into the middle of the queue and joins the group. I call them Q-crashers.

Through my own experiences, I have come across the following characteristics of Q-crashers:

  1. They are super beings
    As I already said Q-crashers think they are super beings. As per them, they have a right to be served first before any of the lesser mortals.
  2. Absence of guilt feeling
    They don’t have any guilt feeling while forcing their way into the queue. On the contrary, they do it with such an air that their action seems completely justifiable.
  3. Size of the queue does not matter
    A monarch is a monarch and does not stand in a queue. Be it a long queue or a small one.

Sarcasm apart, I think this really needs to be addressed if we want to grow further on the path of a developed civilized society. And even though I am initially referring to a class of people, what really needs to be curtailed is a small devil voice in each one of us, which tempts us to ‘break the queue.’

As good as it gets

Nothing about that movie although.

Just while hunting over a topic for a new blog – I came over a thought about life. Whether we realize it or not – we have a finite amount of time to spend on this planet called earth. Why waste it fighting with people, worrying about miniscule issues, cursing status quo, and what not. Just look out of the window – the rain has just stopped. Air is filled with the smell of the freshly drenched soil. Sky is full of amazing patterns of moonlight and clouds. And while you are noticing these things, the person whom you love so much just comes over and hangs her arms around your neck.

If life has so much to give you – why fret around about small things. Let’s live Life – as good as it gets…

The Game

If you ever get a change to know, life is a very mean thing. It is like playing a combat kind of a PC game, wherein you collect all points, magical powers, new weapons and everything possible in your inventory, make allies, and fight with the opposite side, using the best of your skills. Finally, when you are about to rejoice your triumph, your screen suddenly changes and the words “Game over” occupy more than half of your screen in creepy red fonts. And often this happens without any wrong move on your part.

So suddenly, you are out of the game. Everything you have ‘earned’ lies back in the PC, while you come out of The Game. You miss your inventory, but when you are out of the game, you do not have any attachments. You do not have the stress of winning, or the concerns of keeping your allies safe and happy. You are free in the every possible sense.